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Miracle

By on October 25, 2012

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The child must know that he is a miracle, that since the beginning of the world there hasn’t been, and until the end of the world there will not be, another child like him.

My sister-in-law gave birth last August. It was premature birth, we didn’t expect the baby to come so early. He has to stay at the Kangaroo care while sis-in-law would visit him to feed him and to spend time with him. Three days ago he is finally taken home. The little bundle of joy proved to me the meaning of love at first sight. I’ve only seen photos, I’ve only watched videos but my heart melts every single time.

It’s the same feeling but perhaps more intense then when I first lay sight of my newborn kids. They resemble each other in a way but they have different qualities too, I can stress that now that they’ve grown. This makes my conviction about God’s awesome power stronger. That he did not create two people alike, sure there are twins, triplets or so but they can never be exactly the same…there’ll always be a difference. Identity. Despite the differences, we’d love each of them equally. It is not an easy task. Patience dries up at the middle of the day and I personally would get angry at them. At the end of the day,what matters is that feeling that they’re cherished despite the anger you’ve shown that day. A tight hug, a kiss and an “I Love You” will go a long way.

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How to Help Your Child Conquer Bullies

By on October 21, 2012

 

Childhood bullying across all ages has increased tenfold over the past 20 years, sadly making it a regular occurrence in the playground. From name-calling and teasing to physical acts of violence, there are various types of psychological and physical forms of bullying that happen in schools all over the country. School is supposed to be one of the most exciting and fun periods of a child’s life, where they meet their friends and discover what they want to be when they grow up. Instead, many children are subjected to a torrent of abuse throughout their entire school lives, with a small proportion even turning to suicide.

bullying, kid restParents are also the victims when their child is being bullied, as apart from informing the school about the situation, there is very little they can do or say to the bully or bullies themselves. This doesn’t mean that a parent’s role of protector stops however, and there are a number ways you can give your child piece of mind while the school clamps down on the bullying.

Assure Your Child

First things first – make sure your child knows that they have all the support they need. Without your faith and help, your child will be all alone in dealing with the bullying, and they need to know that you’re available any time of day to talk things over. They also need to know that you’re there to take action, and no matter how much they scream and shout, this may mean contacting the bully’s parents, as well as the school.

Give Advice on How to Deal With the Bully

Depending on the type of bullying, there are a number of ways you can advise your child on how to deal with the situation. For example, if the bullying is just teasing, then it’s best to first let your child deal with the situation. We all know how cruel kids can be, and sometimes it just takes a common interest for children to make friends. Sometimes the best thing to take a step back and view the situation from a distance.

However if the bullying begins to get out of hand, whether it’s on school trips around the UK or in the classroom, then you will have to inform your child’s teachers, assuming they haven’t already contacted you. Physical violence against your child should never be tolerated, and you must do everything to ensure that your child’s classroom is a safe and secure place for them to learn.

It’s best to provide your child with reasoning to why the bullying situation might be happening. Many bullies lash out because they have bad home lives, or they themselves are being bullied. Either way, sitting your child down and explaining why bullies like to project their insecurities on other people is a great way to start the healing process.

If you child’s school does its job correctly, then the bully will be pulled aside, warned, removed from class, or even suspended from school. Unless your child has to physically protect themselves from a bully, then you should never advocate retaliation – your child must learn that bullying is unacceptable under any circumstances.

Written on behalf of Knowsley Safari Park, they aim to deliver useful information and advice relating to a range of areas such as assisting parents and families.

  

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Setting the Time for Everyday Routine for Children

By on October 20, 2012

Some people scoff at parents who implement a strict and regimented life for their children. Children, after all, are to be left to enjoy life without worrying about schedules and deadlines. But, there is some value to training kids to put some order in their daily lives. Establishing everyday routine for children is not difficult especially when it is done early enough in their lives.

 

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Like father like son.

The most important thing is for parents to follow a routine of their own. Modeling is the best way for children to learn how to do things at the right time. Parents should make it a point to stick to a schedule every day. It does not have to be strictly on the dot in terms of timing. Working on chunks of time for specific tasks is a less stifling concept of scheduling. Designating time for meals, rest, play, and studies is easy enough for kids to understand. When a child is conditioned to do things at certain times of the day, they know exactly what to expect and are able to prepare the activities in their routine by themselves. For most parents, this makes it less stressful to get the kids to do things that they are supposed to do. Parents should remember, though, that children need some flexibility too. Being too rigid with their daily routine and punishing unduly for not being on schedule can have long-term adverse effects on the child and on his relationship with his parents.

Establishing everyday routine for kids requires some amount of sensitivity to the needs and disposition of the kids. If a kid tends to have too much energy during bed time, it might not be a good idea to schedule nap time late in the afternoon. Likewise, if a child seems to have trouble concentrating at certain times of the day, parents should not schedule study time on these times. A child’s daily routine should serve as a guide on spending their time and not a tool to rule their lives.

  

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Learning How to Ride a Bike: Kids and Life Lessons

By on October 6, 2012

 

Probably one of the greatest inventions ever known to man was the wheel. The unshaved, club-toting Neanderthal man had his mouth all agape at this newfound contraption. It signified the dawn of a new age, a new era of development and launched a thousand and one other inventions. Inspiration struck, man put two wheels together, fashioned a nifty beam and handle here and there, and the bicycle was born.

Everyone of course has to have a go at the bike- children notwithstanding. Since we humans seem to have a greater capacity for learning the younger we are, the best time to learn to ride a bike is during childhood.

I’m no expert when it comes to the rudiments of teaching a kid to learn to ride a bike, but I can pretty much say that I can draw from my own experience as a child.

Flashback to the distant past, I remember my dad starting me off on a bike with training wheels. After a million attempts at convincing me, he finally took off the training wheels. I wasn’t bold enough yet to venture out on just two wheels, so he guided me, holding the back of my seat as I pedaled. Before I knew it, I was biking on my own, feeling the wind blow on my face as I cycled past verdant foliage.

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happy to learn

Fast forward to today, I am a mother who sees my son with fire in his eyes, eager to be a trailblazer on any biking path that comes her way.

When he was 3 years old, I remember getting him one of those tricycles which he pedaled as I guided him along with something that closely resembles a steering rod behind the trike. Even at that age, I saw how he immensely enjoyed the experience.

Now that he’s six, he can now bike without support or training wheels after practice. I’m not the least bit worried of him getting hurt, as I know he’ll learn to balance and avoid falling off at his own pace.

When a kid learns to ride a bike, he or she gets a lesson on independence and confidence. These are life lessons he will carry on well into his adult years. Just like riding a bike, he will not soon forget these virtues.

 

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Why It’s Important to Have/Take Your Kids’ Portraits As Often As You Can

By on October 1, 2012
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May 2004

 Parents who miss their children or those who are reluctant to see their grown-up children leave their nest can only wish that they could turn back the time to when the children were still little.  Even with modern technology, man still hasn’t found a way to travel through time. However, there is a way for us to freeze time and go back to it anytime we wish. Photographs and memories allow us to capture special moments with our loved ones and keep it alive in our hearts.

Today’s gadgets make it easy for us to capture any moment in our children’s life.  The doting parents of a first born child can rarely be seen without a camera to document every expression that their baby makes.  Most people love to take pictures of babies that portray expressions of pure joy and innocence.  Parents usually have plenty of baby and toddler pictures of their kids compiled in albums and scrapbooks that they browse through from time to time.  Sadly, the pictures start to dwindle as the child grows older and family members become too busy to take pictures.

 

People decide to stop taking pictures or fail to have their portraits taken for different reasons, but picture taking isn’t something that we should take for granted.  There may come a time when our memory fails us and the only thing that we can hold on to is the image of our past.  A year without a photograph is like a year gone missing in our memory lane.  As parents, having your kid’s portrait done every year is an investment in the future joys that it will bring for the family.  The children may not appreciate their photographs during the awkward stages of their teens but this will change when they start having their own kids.  Photos that show a person’s transformation from childhood to adulthood are also great materials for presentations on weddings, commemorative events and other special occasions.

Getting a family portrait taken by a professional photographer during special occasions and milestones ensures the preservation of family bonding moments that can last a lifetime.  A well taken picture doesn’t only paint a thousand words but it also holds tons of memories that we can go back to when the sentiments of old age come to visit us in the future. 

Thus, the mamarazzi in me has always tried to capture my kids’ milestones, their important moments and even some that they won’t be proud of. Let me share them to you. Here’s hoping that later on, my kids will be thankful that I’ve documented these.

 

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November 2011

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