Six years ago, I wrote about what a couple could do to strengthen their relationships with simple gestures, albeit for unmarried couples. And up to this day, whenever I pass by flower shops, I remember those little pieces of advice on doing such simple things and how one could be happy to be at the receiving end of gifts given. Iโve been married to my husband for seventeen years now, and itโs not as though we didnโt encounter hardships, we went through them as most couples do and itโs fine to say; we came out strong.
ย ยLetโs take a spin at those tips from before and some of the things we have been doing all these years. This time though letโs also focus on the things that a wife should do for the husband, although this article may lean to a bit more to what the husband should do for his wife. ๐ 10 Things to Do to Keep in Love:
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1. Open the door for her
It still works.ย Material gifts can make a womanโs heart flutter temporarily, itโs the unexpected gestures and the little thoughts that give a lasting impact in a womanโs book. When you arrive home together, open the door; when getting in and out of the car, open the door. Being a gentleman doesnโt cost much.
Thank him for holding the door for you.
Being grateful for the simple gestures, or being grateful in general takes root in our hearts, it makes us happier.
2. ย Give her flowers and gifts even if thereโs no occasion
Even a single rose would mean a lot. If you travel and would be away for a week or two, a rose sent home would be an extra special surprise. A box of her favorite chocolate you canโt buy locally, a souvenir from the city you visited would also be a beautiful coming-home surprise. It would let her know how much you missed her.
Bring him a shirt or trinkets he would love from your travel.
If itโs your turn to travel for a while, a shirt from the city you visited would be truly appreciated. Since we are both shoeholics, we sometimes get each other shoes, especially if itโs cheaper there (Milanโs shoe sales are our favorite!).
At best, travel together.
3. Call, text, send her links to funny posts and topics she would enjoy every so often
Social media has gone so differently than what it was 6 years ago, viral videos and clips are all over many platforms, and thereโd surely be one that youโll find funny to give your girl a good laugh. There would be others that she would feel happy about, thankful for, and nostalgic aboutโฆsend her those links to make her know that you think of her. There are so many messenger services nowadays, still, an SMS would probably be the fastest way to send a message across, but a call on certain times is more reassuring.
Send him lots of emojis.
Be generous with heart emojis! Genuinely reply to what you feel about the messages he sent.
4. Shop together or buy necessities for the home
Men are stereotyped to not enjoy shopping as much as women do, if you go with her to buy shoes,ย a wedding anniversary gift for a friend, it will be truly appreciated. If you noticed that itโs the last toilet paper roll, buy some, she might not ask you to, but it is a considerate thing to do once in a while.
Donโt shop as much.
Be wise when it comes to budgeting.
5. Try out food together
You might surprise each other with what you find good to the palate. Trying out food is a good adventure to start now if you havenโt yetโฆtravelling and tasting the local cuisine is a good way to bond. Donโt forget that bottle of wine!
Cook his favourite food.
Clichรฉ as it may, but the way to a manโs heart is really through his stomach. ๐
6. Play sports together or workout even at home
Go play tennis, basketball, cycle around the city, or just go out for a swim. If thereโs no time to fit both your schedules, workout together at home.
Ready his gears and low-carb, protein bars.
If you canโt go with him to the gym, make sure that he can quench his thirst, replenish his energy, and would be able to take a bath or change clothes later by preparing his gym bag. Even if it means waking up earlier than you used to.
7. Listen.
Not to reply, but just to let her know she can tell you stuff.
Donโt nag.
If it canโt be helped, just do it minimally. ๐ Communication is the key to understanding each other, basically not letting the other know the important things will cause problems. But talk in a way that will not stir up anger.
8. Look back to your beginnings
Remember the first days of getting to know each other, you will remember those days with fondness and see how much change has occurred through the years, and youโd be able to appreciate how youโve gotten close despite the not-so-fond memories.
Date even if you feel like youโve gotten older.
It warms a personโs heart to see a couple of older people on a date (it does to me). So start now to keep a routine, so that when youโre older andย senior datingย is a prevalent thing, you can proudly brag about how youโve dated each other to adulthood. It would be admirable from the point of view of those who personally know you. People may have a peculiar notion aboutย older dating online, but at whatever age love finds you, it will just be as beautiful and exciting like other age brackets.
9. Thank each other
As mentioned above, gratitude makes us happier. To quote Melody Beattie: Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.
Having a grateful heart gives one many wonderful returns.
10. Pray
The most important of all the things a husband and wife should do, but many forget or doesnโt believe in. Ephesians 5:25 and 28 points out, โHusbands, continue loving your wives, just as the Christ also loved the congregation and gave himself up for itโฆย In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. A man who loves his wife loves himself.โ Prayer is also needed to follow this advice. What with the different personalities and beliefs, the help of the Higher being is needed to hold relationships and marriages together, as Ecclesiastes 4:12 points out: a threefold cord cannot quickly be torn apart.
There are many more ways couples can do that can draw them closer together. In summary, the love that each other have should bring about respect, honesty, loyalty, kindness, gratitude, and happiness among other virtues.
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