Kids in weddings are a joy to look at. Some could have tantrums, others would be all smiles, but each and every one of them is adorable. Dressed to the tee, formal and elegant, we can’t help but swoon over them as they walk (or run) and sometimes turn around (or away) in the aisle.
While there’s no set rule to how many a bride and groom can include in their entourage, it’s most often than not that most children in the family will be included. Here are the most common we see when we attend weddings.
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Roles of Kids in a Wedding
Our adorable kids can play the role of any of the following considering age.
Kids, after being briefed on what to do, can usher guests per the direction of the seating area. This task may require certain ages to be able to understand what they have to do.
Flower girls, usually aged 3-8, walk down the aisle either with a ring bearer or a page boy to lead the way for the bride. Sometimes, flower girls scatter floral petals on the floor, should it be allowed. Smaller flower girls may hold a flower basket or a single flower (not as heavy as a basket) instead, as scattering flowers may be too much a task.
Page boys, aged 3-8, usually carry the bride’s train, and other tasks much like what Prince George, Jasper Dyer, Brian and John Mulroney did at Prince Harry’s wedding to Megan Markle. If a bride’s dress happens to have no train, page boys will just have to accompany the flower girls and look adorable in their suits.
Ring bearers, aged 4-8, carries the wedding rings often mounted on a pillow as he walk down the aisle. They get special instructions on how to walk and hold the pillow too, especially if the wedding coordinators and the bride and groom allow the use of real wedding rings during the entry of the entourage. Nowadays, we also see babies (sometimes still in a walker) down the aisle. This is to include even the youngest member of one’s family or friends, but it would be too risky to give him a moissanite eternity ring, all he is is just added cuteness.
A sign bearer simply walks down the aisle with a sign in his hands or attached like a necklace and says something like “Here comes the bride,” “Wait till until see her,” to funnier takes like “They didn’t trust me with the rings,” “It’s too late to turn now!”
A bouquet holder simply holds the bride’s bouquet at times needed during the ceremony. A bouquet holder could be a girl or a boy, but is usually older.
Prepare The Kids for the Wedding
It’s fun and certainly a proud moment if your kids get to be flower girls or ring bearers in the wedding event you’ll be attending. As a mom, one has to prepare for this too. One can’t just go to the wedding day venue and expect everything to go smoothly. Here are some of the things you can do to ensure that the day will go smoothly.
Coordinate with the Bride/Groom and/or the Wedding Planner
If they are to shoulder the expenses for the dresses then all you have to do is take your kid/kids to the fitting and when the dress or suits are finished, you just have to make sure it fits…you also have to know of other details, like fascinators, shoes requirements, and make necessary adjustments by then. If this is not the case, one should know the theme and motif to be able to buy an appropriate gown or dress for little girls and suitable ties and matching shoes for little boys.
There will be a number of rehearsals before the wedding day itself, make sure that you attend some if not all. This will ensure that your child knows what is to happen, and understand what entails following what the coordinator says. Practice makes perfect, even walking down the aisle on a certain pace.
Prep To a Good Mood
You have to make sure that your kid is in good mood during the ceremony…kids could go fickle-minded at the last moment or agitated especially the younger ones so anticipate tantrums, hunger complains and that. Sure weddings are fun but it could be boring for little kids to wait so make sure you have something with you that would make them busy when that happens.
Talking to them about behaving in a wedding would do wonders too but most of the time, they would anyway find it uneasy to stay seated for long. ^_^
Bring snacks and water, and their favorite toy so they can not be hungry while on wait. Just make sure to keep things tidy.
Brief the Kids About Being Careful of Things
Ring bearers should especially need to be attentive, as they are tasked to carry the wedding rings. Rings are precious marriage symbols, whether they are gold pairs inherited from the family, moissanite bridal sets or mens moissanite rings from Shesaidyes, or customized wedding bands from the couple’s favorite jeweller, each is special and needs taking care of.
At the venue, there will be decorations that might distract them, brief them on not touching to avoid untoward incidences. At the reception, there might be a room allotted for smaller kids to play at, give them some time to play and stretch out by strolling at the garden if available.