This video has been going around for the past 2 years but now I feel like sharing it again. Admittedly or not, what this video reflects is true regarding parents, how they do not (I’m guilty of this too) watch their kids closely or how they don’t get involved in their school affairs, how schools are looked upon as the first institution where kids learn proper behavior and how kids lack the responsibility to do their school and homework.
If you finish the video above you’ll realize what schools experience everyday and how different it was during our time – how kids have changed through the years. (2 Timothy 3:1-5)
Distraction. Computer games, video games, television and other unnecessary devices top the list of what distracts my kids. True there are educational computer games, informative television shows but the use or abuse of these gadgets play a big role in a kid’s concentration and distraction from what needs to be done.
When I was still in school I saw to it that I finish homework, school project and everything else by myself. My mom was working as a government employee and comes home after 6 in the evening. She doesn’t have the time to attend to my assignments and all so I finish everything. No I don’t blame her because then I became independent. So I thought.
I didn’t realize then that it will be a disadvantage for me now that I am a mom. I have difficulties teaching my kids because I expect them to be like me as I was a student – learning by themselves. It ain’t easy. Having three languages at home (occasionally five) is already difficult and I try my best to help them grasp each.
They say the home is where kids learn basic manners and habits – I definitely need to make changes with mine. It’s only secularly but let me teach them Bible lessons and I’ll do that in a wink….It’s only teaching Math and German I have to overcome…I wonder what should I do to instill in my kids the independence and responsibility I had as a student to learn. Your ideas are welcomed.
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I’m not really sure I can help you with your dilemma because my son is still a preschooler and naturally is still needy and needs my full attention in whatever he’s doing. Perhaps, I’d be able to answer that when I experience the same problem, that is, when he gets a little older. Like you, I was also an independent student, and I liked it that way, but my other siblings weren’t like that, so I now realize that it really depends on the person. I hope you can visit my MM entry, too. Thanks! http://www.pensivethoughts.com/2011/11/mommy-moments-halloween-2011.html
Like you, I was very independent when I was a kid…I can’t even recall a time where my parents helped me with my homework. I did it myself. That is why I expected my son to do his homework by himself. I tell you, he is pretty independent! He actually does well without my help than with help from me or his Dad. What we do is…let him do it by himself….then when he is done…we check it. It turned out he only made mistake or error once or twice and then we help him correct it.
Your awareness to the issue is a big step towards finding solutions. I’m a long-distance mom nowadays, and I just trust my mother to do the best she can in raising my kid. And then I cross my fingers. Here’ to a better situation, one that we all can survive managing.
we are riding on the same boat,then… i, too, was a very independent student during my time..the same reason why i expected that my son will be also independent in the same field but judging from the looks of it, he is really having a hard time in some aspects…i guess, children nowadays are really different than how we were during our times then… i even came to the point of resigning from work so i could attend to his school needs…but, it’s better this way, i believe…i am actually trying to figure out if we can go fulltime homeschooling next year.
Aww, I hear you mommy. Its been hard for me too as I expect them to be like me and its difficult for the kids to adjust to that. We, Moms, has to go down to their level sometimes of learning.
By the way, visiting from Mommy Moments.
Indeed, distractions are flooding our world right now, especially when it comes to parenting. Our kids and us parents are surrounded with the latest technology that we don’t work on building responsible and proper parenting, we’ll be bombarded with how technology wiill do it to them. I think I am lucky that my husband is a fellow Visayan. It is an edge that I have a partner in raising daughter the way we want her to grow. We usually bring back a whole lot of childhood memories that we’ve experienced and we shared it to her. It makes learning on her part easy and inspiring because she knows that there are so many things right now that she has which we never had when we were like her age. She learns to be so appreciative, too.
I’m sure you’re doing great and wonderful as a parent yourself. I say that based on what I’ve read from your blogs.
Visiting (lately) for MM! Hope you don’t mind. 🙂 I shared my daughter’s BUTTERFLY IDEA at my blog, if you can stop by! 😉
our kids are surrounded with many gadgets that distracts them from studying . I have 12 and 3 yrs old boys .the eldest is already in 9th grade(promoted 2x and graduated co valedictorian) .i make sure he studies first before watching tv while game boys and internet are only on weekends. as parents we need to straighten them up ang watch their activities closer .
a love for learning and a good relationship is vital. hope that you will be able to find answers to your dilemna.